Openness and Vulnerability – A Holistic Imperative?
Openness and vulnerability are often misunderstood. I may be completely off track here, but there seems to be a reticence toward openness and vulnerability across the dynamics of human relationships. The concerns for acceptance, safety and security appear to be at the root of this resistance. I don’t think I’m alone in this regard as I’ve had many private discussions that support this observation.
Standard definition: Emotional vulnerability is a state of weakness that can be brought on by the end of a relationship, insecurities or a number of other reasons. Being emotionally vulnerable means that you’re not emotionally stable enough to sustain a thriving, healthy relationship. Empowered definition: Being vulnerable in a relationship means allowing your partner to know you fully: your thoughts, feelings, challenges, weaknesses. It can be scary to show those sides to our partners out of fear of being judged.
How do we move beyond the boundaries of self-inflicted separation when we profess to believe that a holistic perspective is imperative in the world today? This state of being we seek is a fearlessness toward rejection, certainly the position familiar to great salesmen. Like Og Mandino’s message in The Greatest Salesman in the World; the ancient wisdom contained in scrolls that, when followed, transforms one’s life for the better.
From corporate conundrums in workplace learning and performance to political postulates for serving the needs of society to religious rhetoric meant to free our souls’ purpose to manifest in our daily lives… it’s a full stop when simple and obvious questions arise. Openness and vulnerability allow us to answer those questions authentically. The truth seems to be always less than full disclosure and is often obfuscated by the lack of vulnerability.
How do we first find and then share truth without spending decades or millennia arguing about it? Can we just acknowledge ‘what is’? Great question… what is? How can we determine that without openness and vulnerability?
We, as a world, are faced with some very important choices as we seek to transform our past profit-driven and less than human friendly decisions into creating a world that makes sense. Life-friendly choices are muddled by cash flow projections, personal liabilities, professional limitations and excuses for not acting in accordance with what we profess to believe – our ability to act in love and with mindfulness.
Openness and vulnerability are key elements of asking poignant and powerful questions.
Too often that love is conditional, with expectations that are neither spoken or fulfilled because of our inability to articulate the wisdom we hold as spiritual beings in human form. There isn’t one religion that denies that we are indeed manifestations of some greater intelligence. So where is that intelligence showing up now?
Across the gamut of world government and resource management (human and material) we are experiencing a call for transformation toward something more harmonious, a movement toward telling the truth and working with ‘what is’ rather than hidden agendas and excuses for irresponsible actions.
What I find confusing is the apparent indignation of ‘authorities’ who we’ve looked to for leadership. Instead of revealing a reality that we can all agree is true, there are countless backroom meetings to figure out how to subvert the population into a manageable mass that remains uninformed and even unconscious to their own capability and potential as human beings. This behavior completely denies the human spirit and the possibility of acknowledging that we are spiritual beings at all.
So how do we transform our world even when our leadership is resistant to the changes that are obviously needed to guide our planetary civilization forward?
Answers Come with Openness and Vulnerability
I don’t have all the answers. I may not have any of them. But, I suspect that many across the world are getting fed up with being diagnosed, labeled and accused of being unrealistic. I also perceive that the multitudes of finger-pointers and whistle blowers are affecting the population, but not necessarily in the best way possible.
Exposing the truth often causes a rise in anger and frustration that, unchecked, can lead to even more catastrophic behavior. The nature of attention commits energy to flow toward the object(s) of focus. We know that well now, especially with the proliferation of the Law of Attraction. So far, it seems the focus is still on personal satisfaction.
It is apparent that attention, intention and action are the keys for creating any kind of change in our existing experience or environment. The option to retain openness and vulnerability is so full of potential. How we capitalize on that potential has nothing to do with capitalism.
- Where is our focus?
- Are we looking outside of ourselves for validation?
- Do we look to the skies or on the ground for answers?
- Do we look deep within for help from a higher source?
- Do we propose new possibilities for using our skill sets to better mankind?
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