Zen Benefiel, Author and Transformational Life Coach (BeTheDream.com) takes us on another apocalyptic (uncovering knowledge) journey in making sense common. Zen is a polymath, deep thinker and researcher and it comes out in his comfortable and open yet focused style.
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Diane Wyzga had a knack for asking and answering questions beyond her age early on. It was a mixed bag of inner confidence and outer dismissal by adults. Both expanding her awareness and diminishing her esteem, she held on.
Many of our guests have an early experience of connectedness to the world beyond the norm. Most have at least a brief encounter young, though they don’t return until later in life. Speaking to professionals who’ve established careers gives us all an opportunity to grow in knowledge and understanding, apocalyptically in some cases.
We start out on a deep dive into how Diane first got in touch with her recognition. The question prompts a memory unconsidered for some time. Remembering events that have been ‘forgotten’ until the question occurs are commonplace in our discussions.
The notion that there is really nothing hidden is presented with the awareness of being cosmic consciousness condensed into form as a point of light, bouncing back and forth to and from the Great Light for however many times it takes for us to understand the fact and learn how to get along. It’s all about asking the right questions and letting the answers unfold, referencing Rainer Marie Rilke’s perspective. We essentially asks questions, let go, and move on.
Diane reiterates that there is a great deal to learn in the process of learning how to ask and wait. Her comment about a common phrase, ‘be careful what you ask for because you just might get it,’ as usually considered being negative. She admits that only recently she’s come to an understanding that it is not, meaning it comes unexpectedly. Something does come, though, and our job is to say, “Thank You.”
As children, she says, we are often told to stop telling stories. Stories are perceived as lies, so stop telling lies. It shuts down the authentic self, causing codependency and other dis-ease. She notes how others misread or misunderstand how others relate to ‘tuning in’ to self and feeling or perceiving what story needs to be told. Many rescind from life and keep their inner experience quiet because others aren’t able to relate or understand and thereby become categorizing or critical, let alone dismissive.
What if we could changer our perspective, become intellectually humble, and listen to others without boxing up their story in some way completely inappropriate to the storyteller. It would seem even disrespectful, though the storytellers tend to fall back and feel disconnected to their outer relationships. Diane has an eloquent and expressive way of putting this understanding into words that are very hard to misunderstand, so it’s recommended to listen deeply to this Story Doula.
Diane shares that we all have a story within us, it just takes a special opportunity for them to have it ‘listened’ out of them. Instead of putting up resistance or projecting our ideas of what the ‘truth’ of their story is, they now have a chance to tell their stories unimpeded as they are listened to without conditions. Story asks questions in the listening. It is very much alive.
What oral traditions have we neglected as a result? The remainder of our conversation has insight and understanding shared that will absolutely deepen your experience of life and relationships. Perhaps it may even inspire that deeper connection you may have had to return.
Connect with Diane on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diane-f-wyzga-qmsa
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