Discipline and Practice of Letting go

The Discipline and Practice of ‘Letting Go’

We’ve all heard the phrase, ‘Let go and let God.’ Can you? Are you sure? Do we have to really work on recognizing and releasing our attachments to outcome? Usually we do; working through the frustrations of self-criticism along the way. But, it doesn’t have to be that way.

Oftentimes, we find ourselves in a vicious vortex of self-destructive patterns. That same vortex can just as quickly release us when we know how to let go of our critical subjective nature, acknowledge the feeling, allow the feeling without denial, choose to release it, observe its release and accept a better feeling. Sounds so simple in theory yet again, doesn’t it?

What if it really is?

This practice is a relatively simple yet profound tool for transformation and transcendence. You might already realize the advantages. What you will be doing is synergizing your breath with your feelings, releasing the emotional blocks or bottlenecks to your true freedom and flow.

Depending on what you uncover in your emotional patterning, it can work quickly or take some time. The process, once perfected, can be used anywhere at any time. The results are experienced in many ways as they offer deeper understanding of your own emotions and feeling patterns.

We can either respond or react to any situation, depending on our perspective. By responding, we pause and reflect before we act. The observer within allows us to step away from the emotional attachment to outcome, yet helps us define those attachments because we have become aware of them now.

Once aware, we can choose how to respond rather than react out of some unconscious pattern of old behavior. This is especially helpful when dealing with races from other planets that have a higher frequency than most humans. That may seem a lot to consider, but the news lately certainly creates the possibility.

Personal growth does not have to be painful, even though it often is. Why would we want to continue to experience pain, then? We can observe and not be engaged by the disturbance. So recognizing that the observer is a really powerful place, how do we find it?

The focus of this exercise is to move beyond disturbance in your emotional patterns, the blocks or resistance to change or growth, and become the observer of your process. Emotional attachments cause blockages in energy flow in the circuitry. Our neurocircuitry operates on energy flow, electrical impulses that move through it, or not.

Sometimes we have enough awareness to be able to ask why we reacted to a situation in such an inappropriate or incongruous way. That question is an opportunity to explore the deeper causes of our reaction. The following exercise is designed to allow you to garner greater awareness and control of your responses to stimuli. When you can ‘watch’ then you can respond more appropriately on the fly.

Exercise:

Find a place where you can completely relax and be uninterrupted for at least a half hour. Create an environment you feel totally protected and supported in (crystals, incense, calming music, etc.) Then, when you are ready…

Recall a situation where you reacted emotionally out of control.

Remember the feeling/action/words that triggered the reaction.

Feel the feeling as deeply as if it had just happened again. Embrace the feeling as though it was totally present right now. Notice the sense of it in your body and hold onto it as though it was the most precious thing in the world.

Now, take a deep breath and, just let it go. On the exhale, feel yourself relax and release it fully, or as much as possible. It may only feel slightly different. That’s okay. It is still different now.

Breathe deep, again and breathe again. Feel the tension leave your body as it is replaced by a sense of freedom just from breathing.

Notice that you feel better, less stressed and less tense.

If you don’t know how to release the feeling, just imagine you are free of the disturbance it has caused… completely… like it never happened and you feel completely loved and surrounded by a sense of safety and security. Feel like nothing can harm you, period; like you are in the arms of your parent, protector or God.

That is the process. It is that simple. You probably had forgotten about the feeling, right? Still, if it came up as you focused then it has been there, deep in your subconscious, and affecting your life without your awareness. There could be a bit of residual emotion still. That, too, can disappear with practice. Imagine if you took conscious breaths on a regular basis.

Sometimes past lives, whether you believe in them or not, can affect your current life stream. Your karma is just as easily worked out by and through this process as it is called – forgiveness. We think about forgiveness, but it is a process of releasing.

Most world religions include teachings on the nature of forgiveness, and many of these teachings provide an underlying basis for many varying modern day traditions and practices of forgiveness. Some religious doctrines or philosophies place greater emphasis on the need for humans to find some sort of divine forgiveness for their own shortcomings. Others place greater emphasis on the need for humans to practice forgiveness of one another, yet others make little or no distinction between human and divine forgiveness.

There is a feeling beyond forgiveness once one has processed their bottlenecks. It is a feeling of being imperturbable, as Lester Levinson put it. It is where one becomes completely impervious to inner and outer emotional tugs. It is a place even beyond bliss.

Don Juan, who was Carlos Castaneda’s guide, taught of ‘sealing the egg’ which required severing all psychic cords to others. The ‘egg’ is akin to one’s aura, the luminous egg that surrounds each or us like a cocoon. It is another opportunity in the process of ‘letting go.’

To further enjoy your opportunity, you can get the workbook that includes much more information and opportunity titled: Transformation – A Guide for Change. I ran across a great article by Rob Liu that offers inspiration in making better choices.

March 23, 2018June 11, 2019

Facing Emotional Blockages with Better Tools for Transformation

Removing Emotional Blockages

Objective: Learn how to ‘let go’ and flow.

What are emotional blockages? I think we can all answer that question with a variety of responses from our direct experience.

How might we learn from them?

Here I’ll present some interesting and possibly new points of view you may not have thought about before now. Some things may be just refreshers of what you already know. Hopefully you’ll gain some new tools to apply in your daily living.

Definition of terms:

Attachments to outcome: Holding an emotional charge or feeling for a desired result.

Bottleneck: A stage in a process that causes the entire process to slow down or stop; Incongruent energy that creates a restriction of flow that impedes progress.

Flow: To move or run smoothly with unbroken continuity, as characteristic of a fluid.

Observer Self: One who is aware, through the senses, yet remains detached from them in order to observe.

Fulfillment is accomplished through the synergy of mental discovery, visual imagery and purposeful passion directed toward your plan for achievement. We want to create a daily life that empowers this process. We are phenomenally functional creatures when our ‘energy’ flows without restriction. Flow is the harbinger of fulfillment. Can we create flow by choice? Absolutely! The instruction manual seems to agree.

Bottlenecks, elements or processes restricting output of the production system in a factory, were Eli Goldratt’s nemesis in his book The Goal. Once identified through analysis, changes were implemented to maximize flow, or throughput, within the system. Imagine a laser focus to get through the eye of the needle and then having a pressure wash on the other side.

As it turns out, Goldratt’s analysis of bottlenecks can be applied to the human ‘system’ as well. Consistent with energy systems, emotional bottlenecks impede the flow of fulfillment, happiness and manifestation of our desires. We seek to minimize these bottlenecks in our life. I challenge you to engage them, get to know them intimately and learn to manage the gatekeeper – you.

We can analyze our emotional system to determine where our bottlenecks lay, but that is just the beginning. There is much more. Oftentimes we tend to focus on the bottlenecks, the incongruent energy, rather than focusing on creating a flow. We give power to the farce rather than the force.

This is a common undesirable use of attention. According to mystics, quantum physicists and spiritual teachers, what we focus on, grows. What do you want more of in your life? How do you balance personal and social responsibility? What is your destiny that is wrapped up in your soular blueprint and currently inhibited from presenting itself because of your belief?

Therefore, the objective would be to identify the bottlenecks so you can remove them in order to focus on creating flow. Once the constrictions are identified, you need to understand how to change them so your attention is on the objective, not the bottleneck. Every question has an answer. Are you asking the right ones in your quest for congruence and truth?

More than likely if you are reading these words you have experienced a moment of flow now and again. Remember how it felt? Recall the experience and focus on it for just a moment. Was it easy to recall? Cosmic coincidences are never by chance.

How can we become conscious of bottlenecks? We can train ourselves to recognize when our body constricts, feels tight or our breathing changes dramatically as a result of a situation. We can then embrace them, forgive the cause, and then let go of our attachment to the outcome. Putting it into practice is what we call discipline. That sounds so simple, doesn’t it?

It really is simple when you know how to do it. Knowing how still requires the action of releasing attachments to outcome in order to be effective. The information and exercises contained in this workbook will assist you in eliminating many bottlenecks.

It is up to you to apply the knowledge daily, sometimes removing emotional blockages moment by moment, in order to get the best results possible for you and others. Your personal, company, organizational or global mission may hinge on it, too. I trust it will all make sense soon.

Now that we’ve covered the intellectual side of things, the next post will delve into the actual practice and process that will help you achieve a release of your own bottlenecks.

There is much more available beyond removing emotional blockages with the workbook: Transformation – A Guide for Change.

March 21, 2018June 11, 2019

22 Reasons Why You Need a Coach

22 Reasons Why You Need Life Coach

Experience what this coach has prepared in a workbook called Transformation – A Guide for Change.

March 13, 2018June 11, 2019

Elucidations on Enlightenment and Euphemisms in Life

Who’s Show Is It Anyway?

Often the messenger gets hung up on the message and becomes its icon rather than a simple conduit of information. I was no different. A few years later, I was busy with family, job and planning a future. I busied myself for the next decade until the cosmic 2×4 came swinging through my life – another new awakening for tempering the mettle of one’s character. Elucidations on enlightenment often include euphemisms.

Since that time, I’ve observed that identity is really of no consequence in the delivery of new information or clarification of the mysterious in order for the ‘magic’ of life to become present. Too often identity, assumed or projected, simply gets in the way. Our minds want to categorize and label instead of just listening and observing. The paradox is that sometimes critical information is in a name or the identification. Identity does make a difference.

We allow those who instruct us to continue the lie that we are separate from creation and need to give our power to someone else as our intercessor. Is this the kind of sense we seek to make common? Or, do we want to understand the mysteries of creation and just how connected we really are to knowing our identity as a spiritual being, a conscious co-creator?

In my continued studies, I’ve found the former to be the opposite of what was intended. Even in the Bible one can find reference to the magnitude of intention, “Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?” And from the Dead Sea Scrolls, “Don’t ye know that ye are god as I am god” Now that got me thinking. It totally flipped my point of view. Still, as Nietzsche puts it… ‘God wants playmates.’ How cool is that?

If those statements are true, then how can or could we verify it in our own experience? I had a sense it was going to be a very interesting journey. What could I offer others of my discoveries without drawing a crowd? Or did I want to draw a crowd? Nowadays crowd surfing is an ‘in’ thing. What if it is my destiny to become a front man, so to speak, in sharing a new view?

My own experience was a lunatic fringe to the common folk, so I had to come to terms with being comfortable in my weirdness. That didn’t mean that I kept out of sight, quite the opposite. I learned how to stand out in a crowd without saying a word, much to the chagrin of whoever I was with at the time. One of my favorites is an amazingly colorful marbleized tuxedo, reminiscent of Jason’s amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.

Over the years opportunity knocked and I walked through the door, over and over, until I had several degrees in business, certifications in teaching, hypnotherapy and transformational life coaching as well as a history of achievements that most people might not accomplish in ten lifetimes. I was not concerned about savings or retirement.

Why? I focused on the chance to learn, to stretch my inner and outer understanding, to jump into things I wanted to experience when the doors of opportunity opened – and they did regularly as long as I kept my heart open. The law of attraction was operating nicely, even before I knew there was one.

When I was approaching my 50s, a First Nation friend informed me that in their tradition one had to be 51 before he could participate in any council activity. That milestone means one can now share their understanding and wisdom because they’ve lived long enough to garner it. You see, their tradition requires one to grow to know the secrets of human emotions and our connections to Great Spirit before ever claiming to be a wise man.

In all these trials and tribulations, though, there came to be simple salient points of order that are strewn throughout all religions and spiritual paths as guideposts to finding freedom from self-deception. What I find more challenging is self-acceptance. To grow into what we truly are is the goal.

Dudley Lynch, President of Brain Technologies, Inc. called me a “Possibilities Coagulator” some years ago. It is my hopes that you, too, will become a ‘possibilities coagulator’ as you grow to know the secrets of connecting to your galactic heritage.

Ultimately, I just want to share that simple path to freedom from the self-deception of being anything less than a child of the universe. I think you will enjoy the process, in spite of the turmoil of the past and maybe even some that will come as you get over yourself in the present and progress through these posts. I’ll be sharing the tasty tidbits from years of trials and tribulations. They are all in a workbook called Cosmic Conundrum: Who Am I?

#TransformationalLifeCoach

February 22, 2018June 11, 2019

Transformation – Your Door to What Is… happening

Your Door to ‘What Is’

“In the realm of human destiny, the depth of man’s questioning is more important than his answers.”
Andre Malraux

What is in it for you?

In starting any self-awareness or self-development program the first concern on nearly everyone’s mind is, “How can this person help?” or “What is in it for me?” are standard inquiries. What’s this ‘door to what is’ thing? I hope to make that clear as we move through this process. It will be one that will empower you to be more authentic and make better choices in your life.

Some of the following may seem incredulous and don’t forget that truth is often stranger than fiction. My life is living proof and I’m still seeking answers to explain some experiences.

Let me give you a quick thumbnail. If you need more information, you can search Zen Benefiel on the Web and the results would keep you occupied for weeks. Please feel free to check. Here’s a piece on the Southwest Institute of Healing Arts website.

As an orphan and adoptee with an insatiable curiosity and penchant for pushing the limits of reality, I apparently opened a door in my psyche very young that allowed paranormal experiences to fill my life. I enjoy them still, yet the challenge is the harmonization of inner and outer realities, crafting a niche in the world that aligns and rewards passion and purpose for and with people, places and things. To put it simply – finding form, fit and function in this reality.

This curiosity was initiated by a voice that called out to me shortly after my fifth birthday. It was distinct and loud, yet was inaudible to anyone else around me. A few years later I began having nightly excursions, observing my physical body from a different point of view that took me into an orange cigar-shaped cloud hovering over a field next to my home in rural Indiana, near Muncie.

Those nightly excursions happened numerous times over a two-year period. It wasn’t until years later that I discovered the ‘cloud’ was the most common ‘contactee’ experience during that time period, according to Ruth Montgomery’s Aliens Among Us. It was also included in Strangers Among Us. Admittedly, the childhood I had was different than most.

Then in my late teens just after the beginning of my second quarter in college I got hit with the proverbial, “Who am I?” and “What am I here to do?” scenario. For many that is the first period of serious questioning regarding life, but not everyone has it. It came at a time of serious emotional trauma.

I prayed to know what truth was and a week later during a meditation I was asked, by the same voice I’d heard years earlier, if I was willing to die for what I believed in. My first response was, ‘Oh, shit!’ but I believed in Cosmic Consciousness as the ultimate truth and said, “Yes.” I felt safe and secure in that.

To keep the story short, I left my body, turned to see it as I moved away, looked back to see where I was going and found myself engulfed in white light immediately. I felt like I was HOME beyond comprehension. After realizing I wasn’t ‘dead,’ but this ‘Light’ was void of anything else other than the sense of unconditional love, I asked if there was more.

I felt a movement, found myself surrounded by points of light on an indigo background, and as soon as I realized these were points of consciousness the ‘voice’ explained my relationship to them and my purpose – to facilitate harmony among people and planet. What is a teenager supposed to do with that? There is more here.

A little over a decade later I experience an excruciating divorce, wave goodbye to my children and spiral into the rabbit hole for a year or so. It started one full moon night in June, just before my birthday, when a friend of mine and I were conversing outside our guest house he was renting for a short time.

Our conversation, deeper than usual, fell quiet and I closed my eyes and prayed silently, “Who am I?” I was overwhelmed when he turned to me and said out loud, “You are Zendor.” I was spellbound for a moment, with a quick vision that accompanied the words almost instantly. How does one ‘deal’ with that? A couple of years later I had the opportunity to use it wisely.

Transformation – A Guide for Change in the Process

Opening Your Door to Self

Objectives, Expectations and Ground Rules

Fulfillment: a feeling of satisfaction at having achieved your desires. A connectedness one senses with the Divine or a greater part of reality that exists.

Self: internal spark of life, the Divine within

This coursework and material is designed to facilitate practical understanding and use of the natural processes of your emotional and spiritual transformation that lead toward personal fulfillment.

You will find your Self (spiritual being) as a result. Men and women process information differently. We define ourselves by how we think and feel, even at subconscious levels we may not be aware of just yet.

But what of the Self? How do we move beyond petty self-motivated emotions to divinely-generated sensations? How do we get beyond the polarity paradigm that keeps us in the pendulum swing?

Men have been taught that they must not appear weak or vulnerable throughout history. Sharing deep intimate feelings tends to reveal vulnerability, so men often hide behind stoic expressions that are difficult to read. There is great strength in being gentle and vulnerable. The release of attachments allows one to be available to the cosmic consciousness within and, believe it or not, it shows through the eyes for anyone to see.

Women are known to be far more global in perspective, yet family sensitivities often inhibit the release of attachment necessary to enter the cosmic domains. There are no stoic looks with this gender because of emotional programming, yet there is a desire to be seen; inviting inquiry when the need arises.

The processes within this coursework will help identify and release the psychic cording that often happens to individuals for a variety of reasons. Your life stories aren’t important at this point, although let’s honor them in getting you here now.

We will analyze and examine the process of feeling and thinking so that you become more aware, aligning with your cosmic destiny and able to manage your emotions, making better choices toward achieving goals. The result will be some pragmatic processes for your quiver, sand box, tool box, or daily drive.

The weekly layout is only to provide a foundation for the process. Any endeavor of this type, transformative or not, needs structure for effective delivery. Just stay with me on the path for a bit and you’ll gain from the experience.

Concepts are explained in order to give a consistent understanding of the information. You will be exposed to the practice of several processes that open the door to your emotional freedom, a prerequisite for creating the life you desire. Balanced living often results from addressing the polarities of personal desires and social responsibility.

Daily living environments include a plethora of choices and stimuli vying for our attention. You will learn how to pay attention better and eliminate the distractions and interruptions of the ego so the Self emerges as a natural movement from self to Self. You have no doubt felt that connection already.

The freedom from anger, fear, guilt, shame or other immobilizing emotional attachment allows you to make choices in your best interest. Choices that are in your best interest align all the spiritual concepts and components of life and living toward achieving fulfillment and experiencing joy.

Fulfillment varies from individual to individual; the subtle and sublime sensation of gratitude and reverence for All That Is are a sure sign of it. Joy and serenity are results of success in life, love, service and/or work.

Weekly Assignments: Assignments include exercises, journaling and written papers of approximately two typed pages in length. Of course you can hand write them if you desire. The completion of this workbook will show you how clearing your emotions and igniting the imagination can get you closer to experiencing fulfillment on a more regular basis.

Your cosmic connection, soular blueprint and natural psychospiritual abilities await your discovery and integration.

Important terms are defined at the beginning of each section. It’s up to you to actually do the work. If you have doubts, you’re normal. If you move beyond the doubts, you’ve achieved freedom. If you follow your dreams, you’ll challenge all doubt.

We need to be clear regarding the processes you are about to experience. Your benefit from this coursework will depend on your openness to exploring concepts and practicing exercises. You have to be willing to explore the depths of the ocean of emotion within you. It’s all energy, so just flow with it.

Transformation happens automatically through doing the exercises and practicing the techniques. A good sense of humor will go a long way. Caution: taking yourself seriously is painful.

I stumbled upon an interesting insight a few years ago. The challenge is to change… whatever that may be. Challenge and change are only three letters different.. the ‘lle’ removed creates change. Well, consider this as the ‘lle’ expanded: liabilities, limitations and excuses. Might we transcend to lightness, lumination and execution?

When we remove those liabilities, limitations and excuses from our life, our thoughts, our working relationships – change happens automatically. We ‘shift’ from the old way – habits, patterns and subjective beliefs – to being available for intelligent insights that move us toward a better life and fulfillment.

Journaling empowers the transformation process because it gives you proof of how your feelings and thoughts change. Journaling allows you to write in a stream of consciousness without filtering your thoughts. You will be asked to journal daily about your process; the feelings, insights and thoughts that are relative to awareness and the coursework.

If you currently journal, please be inclusive in your course volume. Journaling is a great process for self-awareness. Apathy is your worst enemy and clearest sign change is necessary.