New Year – New Awareness – New Life

Happy New Year is not just a standard well-wishing for all. It is an invitation to enjoy a life of renewed clarity, hope and vitality. Every year we have a little time to share this sentiment, yet how long does it really last? It’s a new year – new awareness – new life.

How can we take that sentiment and implement it into our daily living? Is there something simple we can do to keep the vibe in our awareness and share it with others? I suspect so, yet it involves some discipline that a lot of us just don’t have yet.

Discipline? Not that we’re looking for disciples, but you kinda have to become one for your own life. What I mean is that there has to be some kind of effort you make on a daily basis to remind yourself of how you want to be. The what and who come as a result of the ‘how.’

What I’ve found is that oftentimes there are some self-deprecating patterns, deeply embedded, that get in the way of allowing our natural happy self to become present. How it happened really doesn’t matter. It is in the past. What shows up is a feeling, like something is being withheld.

A Practical Process

We’ve all heard the phrase, ‘Let go and let God.’ Can we? Do we have to really work on recognizing and releasing our new year - new awareness - new lifeattachments to outcome? Usually we do; working through the frustrations of self-criticism along the way. Oftentimes, we find ourselves in a vicious vortex of self-destructive patterns.

That same vortex can just as quickly release us when we know how to let go of our critical subjective nature, acknowledge the feeling, allow the feeling without denial, choose to release it, observe its release and accept a better feeling. Sounds so simple in theory. What if it really is?

This practice is a relatively simple yet profound tool for transformation and transcendence. You might already realize the advantages. What you will be doing is synergizing your breath with your feelings, releasing the emotional blocks or bottlenecks to your true freedom and flow.

Depending on what you uncover, it can work quickly or take some time. The process, once perfected, can be used anywhere at any time. The results are experienced in many ways, all of them good, as they offer deeper understanding of your own feeling patterns.

We can either respond or react to any situation. By responding, we pause and reflect before we act. The observer within allows us to step away from the emotional attachment to outcome, yet helps us define those attachments because we have become aware of them now. Once aware, we can choose how to respond rather than react out of some unconscious pattern of old behavior.

Personal growth does not have to be painful. Why would we want to continue to experience pain, then? We can observe and not be engaged by the disturbance. So recognizing that the observer is a really powerful place, how do we find it? The focus of this exercise is to move beyond disturbance in your emotional patterns, the blocks or resistance to change or growth, and become the observer of your process.

Sometimes we have enough awareness to be able to ask why we reacted to a situation in such an inappropriate or incongruent way. That question is an opportunity to explore the deeper causes of our reaction. The following exercise is designed to allow you to garner greater awareness and control of your responses to stimuli.

New Year – New Awareness – New Life

Exercise:

  1. Recall a situation where you reacted emotionally out of control.
  2. Remember the feeling that triggered the reaction. Embrace it now.
  3. Feel the feeling as deeply as if it had just happened again.
  4. Take a deep breath and let it go. On the exhale, feel yourself relax and release.
  5. Imagine that the feeling is now gone, replaced by a better feeling.
  6. Breathe deep, again and breathe again. Feel the tension leave your body?
  7. Notice that you feel better, less stressed and less tense.

That is the process. It is that simple. You probably had forgotten about the feeling, right? There could be a bit of residual emotion still. That, too, can disappear with practice. Imagine if you took conscious breaths on a regular basis.

Here’s to the continued deep breathing, embracing what is and choosing to be happy this year!

Transforming Our World – one conversation at a time.

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Invitations

Over the last few months I’ve been participating in a number of conversations online as well as on Zoom (a video platform for online meetings). The nature of the conversations is about learning how to listen and respond from the present moment. The folks involved are from around the world, most of them involved with U.Lab and functioning professionally as entrepreneurs, business owners, change agents (interim CEOs), and social change advocates. The level of experience is amazing and I’m humbled to be included with such dynamic and progressive people.

I’m warmed by the sharing of thoughts and inspiration to be change agents for the transformation of what I know as our ‘planetary civilization.’ References to it abound in indigenous cultures throughout the world, neglected by the ‘western thought’ that seems to be locked into the idea that we have ‘dominion’ over the Earth when, in fact, we are ‘stewards’ that have heretofore been diminished by the louder voices of capitalism and greed. We are all on the hero’s journey.

References

The Mayan Calendar, along with a half dozen others at least (Aztec, Chinese, Egyptian, Hindu, Hopi, Sumerian) portrays this time as one of the emergence of consciousness. According to some references, there is a 50-year window as we shift from the Piscean to the Aquarian age. It began in August of 1987 with the Harmonic Convergence, reached the apex at the Winter Solstice of 2012 and proceeds to 2037 where, perhaps, we enter a Type 1 Civilization on the Kardashev scale. Others portray it from their POV; Aurobindo, Ballard, Blavatsky, Blanchard, Campbell, Keys, Maynard, Maxwell, Marx-Hubbard, Scharmer, Senge and countless more.

Simply put, we have a rise in awareness (personal/planetary/professional) that leads to understanding holistic systems (ego to eco or ego to wego) and an ability/capacity to extend that awareness back into the existing systems, which is the second phase occurring after the 2012 Solstice. The first few years are obviously a little wonky as we grapple with articulating and implementing this understanding. The co-presencing activity process and u.lab fits this scenario well. In this scenario, it doesn’t matter what is happening off-planet. We can only deal with what is in front of us here, now. How we do that is critical, an imperative notion to become ONE in the diversity present.

Moving Forward

Analysis paralysis can and does stifle the process. Imho, we seek FLOW… like Csikszentmihalyi’s Psychology of Optimal Experience – what is it? How do we determine it? Does it come from a place that naturally resides within us, like Otto states about the co-presencing; or, but it’s all around if we could but perceive, as Graeme Edge states. Symptomatic notions are indeed in process of transformation as we continue to find solidarity in discussions about NOW and its effect on the future. Deep listening only matters when we are asking the right questions, first.

We are engaged in a state of self-actualization and self-realization simultaneously – a work-in-progress mirrored by our outer realities. If we question where we are, a quick look in front of us will give us amazing answers. Even as I type, my thoughtmosphere expands to include a repleteness of infinite intelligence working behind the scenes, the unseen hand that we all know and experience as serendipity and synchronicity in our lives… driven by the desire to be ONE in an individuated form, a perfect thread in the tapestry.

Seeing with New Eyes

Observation is a reflection of lens we look through, whether we choose to see connection or discord is up to us. If everything is connected and we see discord, then perhaps we see need to see with new eyes and speak with a new voice. Granted, the most challenging place to be is connected and silent. There is an old adage… to know, to dare, to do and to be silent. In a state of ultra-connectedness, the ‘voice’ of one can and does emote through others.

Perhaps the indefensible thoughts of others are what is coming up now as we witness the world in change and become the re-framers of conversations toward things that matter. It seems there are so many attempting to say the same thing and so few recognizing and weaving them together as reflections of the process. So long ago, in a state of oneness and yet individuated, there was a sense of unanimity that I’ve sought to share my entire life. What I see now, some 40 years later, are those who also have such a notion that it exists and can be experienced in the physical world today.

Can we see with one eye?

Can we feel with one heart?

Can we think with one mind?

Can we live as one on Earth?

I believe the answer to each question is a resounding ‘YES’ and we all are contributing to that circuitous process. I also think we need to imagine ourselves as more than human, at least in the limited sense we seem to want to engage. Just my two sense. 😉

I’ve chronicled my more in-depth exploration in Stubbing My TOE on Purpose.