We owe a lot to Carl’s work with the psyche. In my experience I find that his statement about critical reason rings true, often in self-analysis as well. We diminish our own credibility with behaviors to the contrary. For instance, I had a coach some time ago that caught me by surprise with the clarity of his sight.
He noticed that as soon as something insightful or profound came out of my mouth, I would have this sheepish laugh that discounted the words. It was so baaaad. I saw the truth in his observation immediately and, with some effort, curtailed the behavior. As a result I noticed an increase in self-confidence.
Perhaps you have behaviors that stem from critical reasoning that disempowers and pauperizes you and/or others in your life. Reasoning is important, but taking it to the extreme (like anything) turns a good thing into an overbearing pattern that strikes at the very core of our ability to flow. It spans the gamut of personal and professional environments as well. Take a look and see where you might be engaging this poor dance partner and let them sit this one out.
Many years ago during my MA program, one of the groups presented the idea that challenge and change only had three letters difference. I mention this on the homepage of this website as well. The ‘lle‘ in my own way led me to look at liabilities, limitations and excuses in my personal and professional life. Wow, what a wake up call that was.
Almost a decade later this same phrase came up again while sitting on the Board of Directors for the local chapter of the American Society for Training and Development (now Association for Talent Development) in 2010 as President Elect. My task at the time was to create the annual event for our Valley of the Sun Chapter. I wanted to use the phrase, but wasn’t sure just how to pull it off.
Synchronistically, within a couple of weeks I got a phone call from Neil Dempster, noting his awareness of my task and asking if he could help. I didn’t know Neil at the time, but our conversation soon turned amazingly productive. I mentioned considering the phrase as a theme for the conference and within moments ‘The Shift: Challenge to Change – removing liabilities, limitations and excuses in the workplace’ was born.
The theme was a hit and comments reflected it was one of the best events in the last decade, so I was pleased that our efforts and the presenters who contributed were so well received. As organizations go, I left shortly thereafter because I felt overwhelmed with the responsibility of the President’s office and felt little support from the board at the time with the exception of a few. They weren’t enough to keep me satisfied.
What happened, though, was the momentum continued and the organization started to grow again thanks to those few who did weather the storm. I was led to do other things for several years and just recently was contacted to help strategize the 2015 annual conference. I was more than happy to do so and, to my surprise, was asked to speak at it as well. Now I just have to come up with a topic. Right?
I hope that you can see yourself in the throes of change and meeting (if not transcending) your own challenges in the coming days, weeks and years ahead. Of course, I’m always here to help. That’s what I do. I’ve got a little experience in it as you might imagine. Thanks for stopping by and I hope you reach out to help others, too.